Wednesday, 28 October 2015

Bachpan waali diwali


बचपन बाली दिवाली .....

हफ्तों पहले से साफ़-सफाई में जुट जाते हैं
चूने के कनिस्तर में थोड़ी नील मिलाते हैं
अलमारी खिसका खोयी चीज़ वापस  पाते हैं
दोछत्ती का कबाड़ बेच कुछ पैसे कमाते हैं
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं  ....

दौड़-भाग के घर का हर सामान लाते हैं
चवन्नी -अठन्नी  पटाखों के लिए बचाते हैं
सजी बाज़ार की रौनक देखने जाते हैं
सिर्फ दाम पूछने के लिए चीजों को उठाते हैं
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं ....

बिजली की झालर छत से लटकाते हैं
कुछ में मास्टर बल्ब भी  लगाते हैं
टेस्टर लिए पूरे इलेक्ट्रीशियन बन जाते हैं
दो-चार बिजली के झटके भी  खाते हैं
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं ....

दूर थोक की दुकान से पटाखे लाते है
मुर्गा ब्रांड हर पैकेट में खोजते जाते है
दो दिन तक उन्हें छत की धूप में सुखाते हैं
बार-बार बस गिनते जाते है
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं ....

Written by someone....

धनतेरस के दिन कटोरदान लाते है
छत के जंगले से कंडील लटकाते हैं
मिठाई के ऊपर लगे काजू-बादाम खाते हैं
प्रसाद की थाली पड़ोस में  देने जाते हैं
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं ....

माँ से खील में से धान बिनवाते हैं
खांड के खिलोने के साथ उसे जमके खाते है
अन्नकूट के लिए सब्जियों का ढेर लगाते है
भैया-दूज के दिन दीदी से आशीर्वाद पाते हैं
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं ....

दिवाली बीत जाने पे दुखी हो जाते हैं 
कुछ न फूटे पटाखों का बारूद जलाते हैं
घर की छत पे दगे हुए राकेट पाते हैं
बुझे दीयों को मुंडेर से हटाते हैं
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं ....

बूढ़े माँ-बाप का एकाकीपन मिटाते हैं
वहीँ पुरानी रौनक फिर से लाते हैं
सामान से नहीं, समय देकर सम्मान जताते हैं
उनके पुराने सुने किस्से फिर से सुनते जाते हैं
चलो इस दफ़े दिवाली घर पे मनाते हैं ....

Tuesday, 27 October 2015

Choota sa gaav mera.. Bada big bazaar tha

छोटा सा गाँव मेरा
पुरा बिग् बाजार था,,

एक नाई, एक मोची,
एक काला लुहार था....
छोटे छोटे घर थे,
हर आदमी बङा दिलदार
था,
छोटा सा गाँव मेरा
पुरा बिग् बाजार था..।।
.
कही भी रोटी खा लेतै,
हर घर मे भोजऩ तैयार
था,
बाड़ी की सब्जी मजे से खाते थे,,
जिसके आगे शाही पनीर बेकार था..
छोटा सा गाँव मेरा
पुरा बिग् बाजार था।।।
.
दो मिऩट की मैगी ना, झटपट दलिया तैयार था,,
नीम की निम्बोली और शहतुत सदाबहार था...
अपना घड़ा कस कै बजा लेते,
समारू पुरा संगीतकार था,,
छोटा सा गाँव मेरा
पुरा बिग् बाजार था।।।
मुल्तानी माटी से तालाब में नहा लेते,
साबुन और स्विमिंग पूल बेकार था,,
और फिर कबड्डी खेल लेते,
हमे कहाँ क्रिकेट का खुमार था,,
छोटा सा गाँव मेरा
पुरा बिग् बाजार था।।।

दादी की कहानी सुन लेते,
कहाँ टेलीविज़न और अखबार था,,,
भाई - भाई को देख के खुश था,
सब मे बहुत प्यार था,,,
छोटा सा गाँव मेरा
पुरा बिग् बाजार था।।।

वो प्यार, वो संस्कृति
मैं अब कहाँ से लाऊं,
ये सोच सोच कर
मैं बहुत दुख पाऊं।
जो वो समय फिर आ जाय, तो बहुत मजा आ जाय,,,
मैं अपनी असली जिन्दगी जी पाऊं,
और मैं इस धरती को सौ-सौ शीश झुकाऊं।

Saturday, 17 October 2015

Nice article...

Ratan Tata Tweet...
Germany is a highly industrialized country. In such a country, many will think its people lead a luxurious life.
When we arrived at Hamburg , my colleagues walked into the restaurant, we noticed that a lot of tables were empty. There was a table where a young couple was having their meal. There were only two dishes and two cans of beer on the table. I wondered if such simple meal could be romantic, and whether the girl will leave this stingy guy.
There were a few old ladies on another table. When a dish is served, the waiter would distribute the food for them, and they would finish every bit of the food on their plates.
As we were hungry, our local colleague ordered more food for us.When we left, there was still about one third of un-consumed food on the table.
When we were leaving the restaurant, the old ladies spoke to us in English, we understood that they were unhappy about us wasting so much food.
"We paid for our food, it is none of your business how much food we left behind," my colleague told the old ladies. The old ladies were furious. One of them immediately took her hand phone out and made a call to someone. After a while, a man in uniform from Social Security organisation arrived. Upon knowing what the dispute was, he issued us a 50 Euro fine. We all kept quiet.
The officer told us in a stern voice, "ORDER WHAT YOU CAN CONSUME, MONEY IS YOURS BUT RESOURCES BELONG TO THE SOCIETY. THERE ARE MANY OTHERS IN THE WORLD WHO ARE FACING SHORTAGE OF RESOURCES. YOU HAVE NO REASON TO WASTE RESOURCES."
The mindset of people of this rich country put all of us to shame. WE REALLY NEED TO REFLECT ON THIS. We are from country which is not very rich in resources. To save face, we order large quantity and also waste food when we give others a treat.
(Courtesy: A friend who is now changed a lot)
THE LESSON IS:- THINK SERIOUSLY ABOUT CHANGING OUR BAD HABITS. Expecting acknowledgment, that u read the message and forward to your contacts.
VERY TRUE -"MONEY IS YOURS BUT RESOURCES BELONG TO THE SOCIETY."

Saturday, 10 October 2015

Dekh kya ho gai halat meri ..

Dekh kya se kya ho gai hai halat meri...

Tere saath har ek cheez mei rangat laati zindagi meri...
Kitni berang ho gai duniya yeh meri ...

Teri aakhon mei ek ajeeb sa nasha hai...
Teri baatein meri ruh ko chu lia hai...

Haan kuch nai batati mei... Kuch nai kehti mei..
Tu saath hai toh har dard mein muskurati mei...

Tu jo nai hai toh.. Khud se judaa lagti hu mei...
Kuch apne andar khaali sa mehsus karti hu mein...

Kai sawal mann mei mere ghar kar jaate hai...
Kaise puchu tuzse mei
Yeh jubaan pe nai aate hai..

Kuch sawaloo ka sailaab hum dono ke darmiyaa aaya hai...
Kaun galat kaun sahi... Yeh dil nai samajh paya hai...

Dekhte hai kitne makaa paar karege ab hum...
Saath rehke ya dur rehke zindagi gujarenge hum...?

Aaj kuch andar bahut toota sa lag raha hai...
Har aahat pe khayal tera sa lag raha hai...

Galtiyaa toh galtiyaa hai...
Kisne kya kiya kyu yeh jaanana hai...???
Hichkichaahat mann ki mere dur tuje karwana hai...

Bhul ke shikwe.. Gilee aa waqt ko haraye hum...
Tu kya hai mera.... aur mein kya hu teri... yeh khud ko bataye hum...
Logo se jeet ke kyu khud hi se haare hum???
Chal firse jod le mann ke mann se taar hum...

Kitni baatein hai jisse tuze rubaru karna hai...
Kitne raaz hai jo tuze milke batana hai...

Kaha se laau lafj jab alfaz naa mil rahe muje...
Kaise kahu tuzse ki aa ke saamet lo muje...

Kya rok raha h tumhe...
Puchti khamoshi meri...
Tere ek didaar ko tarasti yeh aakhein meri...

Jhuta hi sahi par bol de tuj bin naa chal payegi zindagi meri...
Tere aaham(ego) ke aage JHUKTI yeh aashique meri..

Dekh kya se kya ho gai halat meri...

Written by me...

Tuesday, 8 September 2015

Nyc lyric

Tuj bin suna saa mann...
Suni suni dhadkan...
Saase gam ki dastak..
Tuj bin jiyu kabtak..?

Meri aakhon ka aksar paani banta hai tu...
Har pal tuze yaad karu...
Khud mein tujko dhunduu...

Mere rubaaru tu hi tu... Tu hi tu....
Mere rubaru tu hi tu....

Thursday, 27 August 2015

No lucky or unlucky....

Good Research on  Definition of Lucky and Unlucky. Worth to read and re-read and re-read whenever we feel we are Unlucky...............
                          
    Why some people have all the Luck ?  

By Professor Richard  Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire.

Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve?

A psychologist says he has discovered the answer.

Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

Hundreds of extraordinary men & women volunteered for my research & over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives & had them take part in experiments.

The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts & behaviour are responsible for much of their good &  bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky people do not.

I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it & tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying : "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50."

This message took up half of the page & was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it & the lucky people tended to spot it.

Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected. As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties'; intent on finding their perfect partner & so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements & miss other types of jobs.

Lucky people are more relaxed & open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating & noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.

Towards the end of the work, I wondered whether these principles could be used to create good luck. I asked a group of volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think & behave like a lucky person. Dramatic results ! These exercises helped them spot chance opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more resilient to bad luck. One month later, the volunteers returned & described what had happened. The results were dramatic : 80% of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives & perhaps most important of all, luckier.

The lucky people had become even luckier & the unlucky had become lucky. Finally, I had found the elusive "luck factor".

Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking Ur normal routine
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize Urself being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call.
Have a Lucky day and work for it... "

The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect."

" There is a great difference  between "worry"  &  "concern",
A worried person only sees the problem & a concerned person solves the problem..!"

TO BE LUCKY OR UNLUCKY - it is by  practice and choice.

Thursday, 6 August 2015

Habit of self study in children

Found an amazing article written by Madhurie singh. Madhuri is a parenting and schooling expert from Pune, she writes blogs on parenting and is on the board of many good schools of Pune as a curiculum advisor.

How to inculcate the habit of self study in children!

Many of you want to know how my boys study on their own. So here is a bit though not everything in detail.

1. I had to make up my mind to let go. Since I am a control freak I love to be aware of everything they did. I had to tell myself to let go. Letting go early is v important for their development.
So you need to let go the need to hover in your child’s head all the time.

2. My mom was v happy when she saw my sons studying, eating, playing and fighting on their own. She said a v important thing. “When you were all young, I had no time nor did I know what to teach you all. So I would sit with you all. But that worked well with you as you learnt to study on your own. I see parents who sit and teach 2 to 3 hours daily but the kids are not at all serious.”

So the message is to let your kids study on their own. They will make mistakes and they will falter. It’s ok. Let them do these mistakes when young. The stakes are low. The loss is small. So what they get less marks in class 2 or 5 or 7! Let them realize what is failure early on. They will understand how to do self study. And trust me, in this age of internet, the only reason I am sending my kids to school is because I want them to mingle around with 20 other kids and teachers. Socialize with them . Of course I need peace too. ;).

3. I do not ever ask them what marks they have got. All I ask before assessment is a quick answer to my questions on how will you use this concept in real life. If they know great. Else I give them a bit of Gyan that is enough.

After they come back from tests I don’t ask how much will they get. I ask them this ” So were the questions easy or tough?” If they say it was easy, I know they have understood everything v clearly. If they say it was tough, I know I need to explain it to them as they still have not understood the usage of what ever they learnt and hence it seemed tough to them. It also tells me that I did not explain to them good enough for their smarty heads. So I have to simplify the explanations.

4. I stopped packing their bags when they were in class 3. Their diary notes from teachers would be some thing like this “Mrs Madhurie Singh, your son did not bring his homework book today. Kindly ensure it is there.”

My reply would be this ” Dear teacher, I am teaching him to be responsible. So it is his responsibility to pack all books not mine. Kindly scold him for not getting the book from next time.”
Most teachers have written back this ” Dear Mrs Singh, I appreciate your way of inculcating responsibilities in your son. I will not bother you again for this. Hope more mothers are like you.” And this message is universal!

5. Project work and home assignments are all done by my sons on their own. Initially they would argue with me. ” All my classmates moms help them in their project s and homework. They are neater and look so good. But mine is dirtiest.”
I would tell them the same thing repeatedly till they stopped asking me. “The homework and project work is a way to make you learn and practice what you did in class today. If you do it yourself, you will know how much you understood. If I do it then how will you practice. Do you want to keep on studying the same thing again after today and waste your time? Because if you don’t do your home work and project yourself, you will forget it after today. Then one more day you will have to sit to do it again afresh. That will reduce your playtime.” And I mean what I say.

5. I allow them to mess, waste materials as that is how they learn to use their brains and be creative. I try to teach them in simple conversation about risks, money value, business and importance of being best in whatever they do in life.
Like ask them questions that has nothing to do with their school. E.g. ” I want to hire a Sw Engg, what should I look into that person when I interview him or her?”
Or ” We want to buy a new car, what car should we buy.” The first thing they ask is ” what is your budget?”
My dad wanted to buy toys for them last yr. We all went to Hamleys. My dad asked them ” Boys, what do you want to buy?”
Both asked him ” What is your budget nanaji?” My dad said ” No budget”.
He ended up paying close to 20 thousand for cars, bikes and stationary!
I told my dad. They asked you about the budget, you should have told them the upper limit. And they are v fair.
It's a forward  msg just thought of sharing as it's an eye opener☺
Hope it teaches us to treat our kids to BE kids😀