Meri Aashique

Song: Meri Aashiqui
Movie: Aashiqui 2

Music: Mithoon, Jeet Ganguly
Lyrics: Irshad Kamil, Sandeep Nath
Label: T-Series
Singers: Arjit Singh & Palak Muchhal 

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Tu mujhe chhod jaaye yeh nahi ho sakta saathiya

Meri baaton mein tera zikr sada
Meri yaad mein teri fikra sada
Main jo bhi hoon tum hi to ho
Mujhe tum se mili apni adaa

Kyun ki tum hi ho, ab tum hi ho
Zindagi ab tum hi ho...
Chain bhi, mera dard bhi
Meri aashiqui ab tum hi ho

Tum hi ho, tum hi ho
Arz bhi, mera marz bhi...
Chain bhi, mera dard bhi
Meri aashiqui ab tum hi ho

Tere liye hi jiya main
Khud ko jo yun de diya hai
Teri wafaa ne mujhko sambhaala
Saare ghamo ko dil se nikaala
Main jo mit bhi gaya to wajood mera
Sada tujh mein rahe zinda... hmm...

Kyun ki tum hi ho, ab tum hi ho
Zindagi ab tum hi ho...
Chain bhi, mera dard bhi
Meri aashiqui ab tum hi ho

Tum hi ho, tum hi ho
Zindagi ab tum hi ho...
Chain bhi, mera dard bhi
Meri aashiqui ab tum hi ho

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- English Translation -

Your leaving me, my lover, is not possible

In my talks there's always a mention of You
In my memories, your worry is always there
I am what I am, it is because of You
From You only, I got my grace

Because it's only You, now it's only You
You're my life now
You're my peace, my pain also
You're my only love now

It's only You
My talks, my decisions (choices)
My peace, also my pain
You're my only love now

I lived for You only
I've given myself away in this way
Your faithfulness cared for me
It took away all the sadnesses from the heart
Even if I get eradicated, still my existence
Shall remain alive inside You forever

Because it's only You, now it's only You
You're my life now
You're my peace, my pain also
You're my only love now

It's only You
You're my life now
My peace, also my pain
You're my only love now

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This song is so near to my heart <3 &

(Commets are always welcome)

DISTANCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER :)

For a happy family, before & after him

Letter written by a wife after her husband's death in an accident
 

"Few things I learnt after my husband's death:-

We always believe we will live forever. Bad things always happen to others.

Only when things hit us bang on your head you realise... Life is so unpredictable....

My husband was an IT guy, All technical. And I am a chartered accountant.
Awesome combination you may think.

Techie guy so everything is on his laptop. His to do list. His e-bill and his bank statements in his email. He even maintained a folder which said IMPWDS wherein he stored all login id and passwords for all his online accounts. And even his laptop had a password. Techie guy so all the passwords were alpha-numeric with a special character not an easy one to crack. Office policy said passwords needed to be changed every 30 days. So every time I accessed his laptop I would realize it's a new password again. I would simply opt for asking him 'What's the latest password instead of taking the strain to memorize it.

You may think me being a Chartered Accountant would means everything is documented and filed properly. Alas many of my chartered accountant friends would agree that the precision we follow with our office documents and papers do not flow in to day to day home life. At office you have be epitome of Reliability / Competent / Diligent etc but. At home front there is always a tomorrow.

One fine morning my hubby expired in a bike accident on his way home from office.. He was just 33. His laptop with all his data crashed. Everything on his hard disk wiped off. No folder of IMPWDS to refer back to. His mobile with all the numbers on it was smashed. But that was just the beginning. I realised I had lot to learn.

9 years married to one of the best human beings with no kids just the two of us to fall back on but now I stood all alone and lost.

Being chartered accountant helped in more ways than one but it was not enough. I needed help. His saving bank accounts, his salary bank accounts had no nominee. On his insurance his mom was the nominee and it was almost 2 years back she had expired. But this was just a start. I didn't know the password to his email account where all his e-bill came. I didn't know which expenses he paid by standing instructions.

His office front too was not easy. His department had changed recently. I didn't know his reporting boss name to start with when had he last claimed his shift allowance, his mobile reimbursement.

The house we bought with all the excitement on a loan thought with our joint salary we could afford the EMI.  when the home loans guys suggested insurance on the loan, we decided the instead of paying the premium the difference in the EMI on account of the insurance could be used pay towards prepayment of the loan and get the tenure down. We never thought what we would do if we have to live on a single salary. So now there was huge EMI to look into .

I realised I was in for a long haul.

Road accident case. So everywhere I needed a Death certificate, FIR report, Post Mortem report. For everything there were forms running into pages indemnity bonds, notary, surety to stand up for you. No objections certificates from your co-heirs.

I learnt other than your house, your land, Your car, your bike are also your property. So what if you are the joint owner of the flat you don't become the owner just because your hubby is no more. So what if your hubby expired in the bike accident and you are the nominee but if the bike is in a repairable condition .you have to get the bike transferred in your name to claim the insurance. And that was again not easy. The bike or car cannot be transferred in your name without going through a set of legal documents. Getting a Succession Certificate is another battle all together.

Then came the time you realise now you have to start changing all the bills, assets in your name. Your gas connection, electricity meter, your own house, your car, your investments and all sundries. And then change all the nominations where your own investments are concerned. And again a start of a new set of paperwork.

To say I was shaken my whole life had just turned upside down was an understatement. You realise you don't have time to morn and grieve for the person with whom you spend the best years of your life. Because you are busy sorting all the paper work.

I realised then how much I took life for granted. I thought being a chartered accountant I am undergoing so many difficulties, what would have happened to someone who was house maker who wouldn't understand this legal hotchpotch.

A sweet friend then told me dear this was not an end, you have no kids, your assets will be for all who stand to claim. After my hubby's sudden death. I realised it was time I took life more seriously. I now needed to make a Will. I would have laughed if a few months back if he had asked me to make one. But now life had taken a twist.

Lessons learnt this hard way were meant to be shared. After all why should the people whom we love the most suffer after we are no more. Sorting some paperwork before we go will at least ease some of their grief.

1. Check all your nominations...
It's a usual practice to put a name (i.e in the first place if you have mentioned it) and royally forget about it. Most of us have named our parent as a nominee for investments, bank accounts opened before marriage. We have not changed the same even years after they are no longer there with us. Even your salary account usually has no nomination.. Kindly check all your Nominations.
- Bank Accounts
- Fixed Deposits, NSC
- Bank Lockers
- Demat Accounts
- Insurance (Life, Bike or Car or Property)
- Investments
- PF Pension Forms

2. Passwords..
We have passwords for practically everything. Email accounts, Bank accounts, even for the laptop you use. What happens when your next in kin cannot access any of these simply because they do not know your password... Put it down on a paper.

3. Investments.
Every year for tax purpose we do investments. Do we maintain a excel sheet about it. If so is it on the same laptop of which the password you had not shared. Where are those physical investments hard copy.

4. Will.
Make a Will. I know you will smile even I would had I not gone through all what I did. It would have made my life lot easier a lot less paperwork. I wouldn't had to provide an indemnity bond, get it motorised, ask surety to stand up, no objections certificates from others...

5. Liabilities.
When you take a loan say for your house or car. Check out on all the what if, what if I am not there tomorrow, what if I loose my job. Will the EMI still be within my range. If not get an insurance on the loan. The people left behind will not have to worry on something as basic as their own house.

My battles have just begun... But let us at least try and make few changes so that our loved ones would not suffer after we go. We do not know what will happen in the future. But as the Scout motto goes: Be prepared "

NEVER TAKE LIFE FOR GRANTED DO THINGS APPROPRIATE FOR THE ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU WITH LOVE.

NOTE: THIS IS A REAL INCIDENT AND NOT JUST A FORWARD

Please read at least 3 times. we are spending lots of time on waste like TV serials, Movies etc. Please spare 15 Min. for your loved one.

Excellent message.

Family management is not only cooking + cleaning + taking care of the dependents but also involves complex operational knowledge of finances...
The above message is a must for every family and its success

- feel like sharing this article
Hope ur family always remain happy

The kids are not alright

Anshu Bhojnagarwala
BLOGGER

A few weeks ago, I had attended a birthday party of my daughter’s friend. There they played a game, the age old ‘Passing the parcel’, however, what was different was the way it was played. The child who was caught with the parcel when the music stopped was asked to leave the circle, but with that parcel as the gift, and then a new parcel was introduced. The game continued till every child got a gift. I asked the mother what was wrong with the earlier version, the version we had all grown up with.
She said – “I do not like kids to be disappointed. See, here every child is happy as he or she gets to take a gift home.”

In another instance, I was in the park with my daughter. She was playing lock and key with her friends. Now, one of her friends fell down. Her mother, who was on the other side of the park ran to his son, all confused and upset. She scooped her son in her lap and started inquiring – “Are you hurt? Let me see! Do no cry! Shush, mama is here.”
The child, had a scraped knee, who was perfectly OK till then, started crying earnestly.

I was at a friend’s home for lunch. Her 5-year old daughter refused to eat what was cooked for lunch. My friends felt so guilty that her daughter would go hungry, that she cooked up her favourite pasta immediately. According to her, it was not the first time this had happened.

At the School Sports Day, there are no races, no competition. No first, second or runner ups. Because, everyone is equal, there should be no competition between the kids.

Kids today have a room full of toys and games. Some they ask, some they do not. But, they still get them.

Everything in excess is the new mantra of life.
Our parents taught us self-reliance, while we hover around our children and want to protect them at all costs. We like to hold our babies closer to the protection of the nest. We go out of our way and rustle up something when they don’t eat what’s cooked at home for everyone else, because we don’t them to sleep hungry. Instead of letting them play outside, we organize activities for them. We do their homework and their assignments. We even resolve their conflicts for them.

It makes me wonder, what will happen to these kids when they grow up?

Will they get a gift everytime they fail? Will they be able to handle disappointment? A child who has never been denied anything, how will he cope with rejections? There are a growing number of cases when kids run away from home or commit suicide because they are not able to deal with low marks in examinations or when they fail to secure an admission in an institution of their choice.

Will their parents keep them hidden in their bosom all their life? Our mothers never ran after us, a scraped knee was just that. She would ask us to wash it with some water and then forget about it. But, there was no drama that followed. Falling and hurting was a part of daily life for us. We cycled, climbed up trees and jumped from the stairs. Today, kids travel in elevators and escalators (because they might fall down the stairs and get themselves hurt). Earlier, kids walked and cycled. I hardly see kids walking nowadays, unless it’s for a kids’ marathon and they are required to pose for selfies with their cool mommies. I never see kids climbing up the monkey bars, do you?

Will they shy away from competition or be able to survive it? OK, so we can accompany our kids till the college gate and sit in the waiting area while they appear for a job interview. In one-child China, parents have been known to put up tents outside their college kids’ dorms. This is an invisible umbilical cord we are just not ready to cut. And, what happens after that? A
child who is never used to losing – how will he survive in the big bad world?

We are raising our kids to be adult babies.
So what should we do?
Stop telling our children that they are special all the time. They are not, at least not always. So reserve the praises for the times when they actually deserve.
Stop going out of the way to create happiness in their life. The life is a mix of joys and sorrows, and it is for a reason. We have no right to interfere with the nature. So let’s stop pretending that everything is all right when it’s not. Let the kids have their fair share of disappointments at an early age. It’s better to fall at 10, than at 40.

Taken from
Anshu Bhojnagarwala
BLOGGER

( I read it on some social app, where these name is given)

Thoughts by seeing the picture

At a certain moment we were fallen between the cracks. We are sp captivated by our thoughts that we just see everything negatively.

N we think everything is over. We feel same the way the picture is looking.

Lets try another perspective....

(My inner voice, having conversation with me)

Hey you... I m ur soul,
R u listening?
I know you're upset and wants to cry loud., Lets cry and shout together.
Be negative as much as you want, i wont stop you. After all we are all humans, WE CANT STOP FEELINGS. SO, here i m, i wont say that your scars will be healed, but i will say its good to have that... What you think??

See, you looking up, not down, because you still have the zeal to go up. I know you, you can quit for sometime but to the next moment you will again stand with the new strength,  which is indeed more than before.

I love when you're totally absent, and become silent, because i feel you find yourself more. You able to understand your strengths, your weakness and than, than next time you know when to stop,

Hey fighter,

again look up by breaking your NEGATIVE WALLS. Their is a new sky waiting for you. And we both know (you & me) that you have more strength than others or you yourself think.

And lastly... Listen, i wanna wishper something ;)
You are becoming more adorable and beautiful with your scars.

Always in love with you.
YOUR SOUL

-BY ME
(Picture took frm the lettrs)

Be like a MAD, And sensible too..

Have you ever seen a mad person? Of Course we all did....

Tell me what strikes in your mind when you see them??

Some tries to avoid them, some sees them with lots of interest, some laugh at them, and some even tries to make fun of them.

By all this... Have you ever checked that, the person to whom we, the "sensible" or "wise" persons, calling "insane" or "mad", have he ever reacted on all that?? Did it make any difference to him??? I think NO, it didn't.

May be some mad person behave arrogantly or laughed if someone try to make fun of them. But did that make any difference to you??
No, You left that person and don't mind about the things he told. Why???
The answer is so simple BECAUSE HE IS MAD.

On both the conditions (weather it is mad person or you) have you learnt something???

Firstly, why cant we behave like a mad person, and just laugh on the world madly, the way they laugh on us. Why we worry so much about the world? Why we react when they try to provoke us.
Why cant we just behave like a Mad, when they try to make fun or try to make us arrogant in any way.
Why we take all the bad words of them?
Just be MAD when it comes to us. When its all about our dreams, our aims.

And secondly, don't react when someone talk INSANE, or get MAD about you. Its a best way to answer any person who wants you to react on his madness. ISN'T IT ?? ;) :P

I guess if we understand when to become like INSANE and when to behave like a SENSIBLE person...,

Its easy to deal with with the world. ;)

- by me

Dont listen others... JUST DO UR BEST

Its a common saying that, when you want to become something look people who has succeeded in that stream so that they can inspire you...
and when you're sad or going through some problems look the person whose situation is more worse...

What you think is the both statement is right??

Isn't it biased???

Why cant we just see ourselves in every matter. Whether it is our aim or the struggle, or the problems we are facing.

Why we always wants to look others ?
If this is the way, than compare each and every thing, why only the situations? Compare  that person by the way he's being brought up from childhood. Compare the atmosphere, the schooling, the friends, the situations every damn thing.

Why people just wants to compare the particular situation.

On the other hand we have read one more statement that,
For knowing the situation of the person you have to walk in his shoes.

Than why people can't see the situation the person going through? Why they come and console in a way that look them, your situation is far more better. Why the hell, this comparison?

And to the extreme when someone got succeed, you are lucky. Because so many have talents but didn't have the luck.

I feel every person has his own problems and the way of dealing with them. And every person has their own story of success and struggle. Its good to get inspired by someone. But never compare it by yours. Their situation may be good or worst compared to you. But that was their not yours. And it goes vice versa.

JUST DO YOUR BEST and dont regret later, because you did your best

- by me

Fight with your emotions

Its OK chill...

We all know inside , that we can fight with our emotions.
Weather its a matter of our relationship, the feelings, the anger or the situation we are going through.
Its just a matter of moment. Let that pass. Wait till than...
Yeah,  I know sometimes its hard to deal with the feelings, special when we love someone or something... Its hard to LET GO .

And its funny that when we try to forgot someone, after that we remember them more.

The problem is we don't want to accept that we are missing someone. Well, their is nothing wrong in missing someone. ACCEPT IT (at least don't lie to yourself). Than the things will move more smoothly. This way you move a step ahead on the process of dealing with your feelings.

-By me

Aahista chal aye zindagi..

Aahista chal aye zindagi....
Kuch halat sambhalna baaki hai....
Kuch jeena baaki hai...
Thoda hasna abi baaki hai...

Tere saath chalna kab hua mera...
Abi kuch shaame,
Tere saath jeena abi baaki hai...

Aahista chal aaee zindagi...
Kuch saase khud ke liye abi jeena baaki hai... ;
Karj toh bahutoo ke hai, Jo kabi poore naa honge ...
Bas unn logo ke hoto pe muskaan laana abi baaki hai...

Aahista chal aaee zindagi...
Abi tera jashn manaana baki hai...

Kehte hai dard naa ho toh, Khushi ki kimat na samajh aati hai...
Bas uss khushi ke liye jeena abi baaki hai...

Aahista chal aye zindagi...
Abi tere bahut karz utarna baaki hai...

Written by me..